I have so many things to say I don’t even know where to start. Sentences keep drifting through my head, and it’s difficult to sort through them.
I sit at home and marvel at the many things that have happened in so short a time, You have gone from being the carefree young woman I used to know – and whom I keep seeing in my mind – to being a wife and future mother. If it’s true that your generation is living faster than we used to, then you seem to have broken a couple of records!
Not that you’re the only one in your condition. Passion alone has produced more children than we care to count. It’s just that – as your mother – I see the speed of events and am baffled by it.
I see the two of you and feel your love for each other. I’ve seen the resolve in Paul’s eyes, and wish you both strength and determination, because you’re going to need both of them in the near future.
Don’t get me wrong. Having a child is a wonderful thing and the fulfillment of a couple’s life. It’s just that I wish you had had time to do other things – all the things people your age generally do. I would have liked to see you finish high school and think about College – getting an education is very important, you know that. And you would have gotten together with the girls in the neighborhood, like you used to do. You would have dated boys – of course – or the relationship you and Paul have would have eventually evolved into marriage. But enough of that! I am sure you’ve been thinking these same things, and you must have come to your personal conclusions.
And I also wish our respective families had gotten to know each other better. I have deep faith in the love Paul’s family is giving you – I trust they’ll be wonderful grandparents and uncles to your child, and that they will help you when you need it most. The more I think about it and the more I grow fond of your husband. I have a special place in my heart for him – he has shown strength of character uncommon in men his age. I am sure he’s worth of you as you are of him. You’ll make a wonderful couple.
I wish I were near you in this moment of change. Mothers are supposed to stand by their daughters and help them. And I do stand by you – at least in spirit. I’ll always be here for you, and – if you look well – you’ll see a friend as well as a mother.
As the days pass you’ll notice changes in your body, of course. What will be harder to see – and you’ll realize it little by little – is that those physical changes help shape the mother that’s in you.
Only when we become mothers ourselves do we really understand what it means, and what it has meant to our own mothers.
The warmest of hugs and thousands of kisses,